I was driving myself to work and listening to the latest episode of Lena Dunham’s podcast, Women of the Hour. I really related with something she was saying about abortion until the words coming out of her mouth made my face squinch*. Lena Dunham ended her part of the pro-choice talk segment saying she wishes she now had an abortion. Which without context sounds horrible and even with context — and understanding her sentiment behind the words — still borders on horrible.
What Lena** was talking about was how she always felt very pro-choice, but still inside of herself held the stigma a large part of society tries to instill in us. That being, abortion is bad or is murder. Example, if the topic got brought up and Lena was asked if she had had an abortion before, she would respond immediately, No I have NEVER had one. She realized she was holding herself separate from the people*** she was trying to fight for and she discovered she would have to strip that stigma from herself. Now she doesn’t feel that stigma inside so she basically said she wishes she had experienced one so she could empathize better with the people she fights for.
So intellectually I understand what she was saying, but I still wouldn’t wish for something like that. I am pro-choice. I think abortion should be safe and legal everywhere.
But I still hold something in me that relates to the stigma Lena was talking about.
I wouldn’t choose to abort. I think every person has the right and should always keep the ability to be able to choose what they do with their bodies and their lives, but my personal choice wouldn’t be to abort. And I find that hard to explain to people when the topic comes up. It is like Lena before her epiphany, I am separating myself from those who choose to end their pregnancies. I don’t mean to, but it’s my personal feelings.
*It’s underlined as not being a real word, but is in the North American dictionary. So there.
**We are cool like that and Lena Dunham’s full name typed throughout the entire article seems a little much.
***Gender non-specificity is the new politically correct. Respect the LGBTQ community.